Moving on...
One step forward, two steps back.
Man is a creature of habits. Regardless of how much we may like change, adventure and knowing new things, there's always a need for something to stay the same, to be an anchor, if you will. Could be something insignificant, like the way you always put on your right shoe first. Maybe the routine you have when you wake up. A place you come back to. Getting of work and go to the one you wanted to be with all day. Playing football (soccer, for those mentally challenged) on a saturday afternoon. Lifting weights every other day. These thing become part of who you are. Define you, even.
Still, all is transient, everything ends. Coping with it is generally not easy. After all, certain things become part of you. Still, friends part ways, you begin to have less time for yourself, organizing a game becomes harder as everyone has something to do, hell, you may even step on a landmine and bast that right foot of yours. What then?
If you try and remain attached to those things, you might end up blind to all else. You just want to do those things, nothing else. You want them back. As childish as it is, you want everything to stay the same. So you try to hold on. Maybe you'll still be able to get together with everyone. Hey, maybe it's just a busy time for everyone. Maybe they'll learn how wrong they were to have left. Maybe everything'll be back to how it was.
Funny thing is, you know it won't. You probably don't see anyone from high school anymore. Parted ways, gone. You'll only get busier. Maybe the shoe thing will remain. The one whom you've waited for will never again wait for you. If you still hope none of this, which you know has to happen, will happen, you'll just get stuck. Stop moving on. Waste chances. Lose time.
Things can't go back to being the way they were. Your group of friends will no longer have entire afternoons to lazy about, playing cards and football. You'll lose the will to do things, too tired. Even the one whom you though you wanted, you know you won't be able to trust her again.
Cut your losses, take the good things, try to forget the bad ones. You won't be able to do it, but hey, life's an exercise on futility. Try it. Move on as best as you can. Learn about what you can do now. Live for today and all that crap. Don't waste the chances you have to meet someone new because you were waiting for something that never came. Don't think of what has been.
Move forward. Even if it's a cliff that lies ahead, you'll at least have one hell of a rush on the way down!
Man is a creature of habits. Regardless of how much we may like change, adventure and knowing new things, there's always a need for something to stay the same, to be an anchor, if you will. Could be something insignificant, like the way you always put on your right shoe first. Maybe the routine you have when you wake up. A place you come back to. Getting of work and go to the one you wanted to be with all day. Playing football (soccer, for those mentally challenged) on a saturday afternoon. Lifting weights every other day. These thing become part of who you are. Define you, even.
Still, all is transient, everything ends. Coping with it is generally not easy. After all, certain things become part of you. Still, friends part ways, you begin to have less time for yourself, organizing a game becomes harder as everyone has something to do, hell, you may even step on a landmine and bast that right foot of yours. What then?
If you try and remain attached to those things, you might end up blind to all else. You just want to do those things, nothing else. You want them back. As childish as it is, you want everything to stay the same. So you try to hold on. Maybe you'll still be able to get together with everyone. Hey, maybe it's just a busy time for everyone. Maybe they'll learn how wrong they were to have left. Maybe everything'll be back to how it was.
Funny thing is, you know it won't. You probably don't see anyone from high school anymore. Parted ways, gone. You'll only get busier. Maybe the shoe thing will remain. The one whom you've waited for will never again wait for you. If you still hope none of this, which you know has to happen, will happen, you'll just get stuck. Stop moving on. Waste chances. Lose time.
Things can't go back to being the way they were. Your group of friends will no longer have entire afternoons to lazy about, playing cards and football. You'll lose the will to do things, too tired. Even the one whom you though you wanted, you know you won't be able to trust her again.
Cut your losses, take the good things, try to forget the bad ones. You won't be able to do it, but hey, life's an exercise on futility. Try it. Move on as best as you can. Learn about what you can do now. Live for today and all that crap. Don't waste the chances you have to meet someone new because you were waiting for something that never came. Don't think of what has been.
Move forward. Even if it's a cliff that lies ahead, you'll at least have one hell of a rush on the way down!
posted by Cash at 8/22/2006 12:24:00 PM
5 Comments:
Probably, the wisest post so far.
Let me just add a little thing or two... things change because you (hence, everybody else) does. You never lose as much as you win, the tricky thing is to figure that out!
Dá para ver que ficou qualquer coisa encravada na garganta com uma relação anterior...
Já experimentaste poligamia? Converte-te!
(A propósito, cheguei aqui por vias do blog da paula.)
I like it!
sorry, but sometimes you lose a lot more than you win, such as the ability to trust someone!
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There's so much that gets stuck in your throat in these kinds of situation... and don't even gt me started on jokes about chicks and deep-throating.
Poligamy... too much of an hassle. Plus, it's only good if all you cara abour is sex. Humm, now that I think about it, might be worth a shot!
BTW, she was the one who made me create this blog in the first place.
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Thanks, I'll keep writing even if no one reads it, but it's always nice to know your work is appreciated.
As I said, the tricky thing is to figure out that you *actually* always win more than you loose.
That 'ability to trust' thing will fade out in time and, if you're clever enough, you'll see that your experience was for your own good (therefore, a plus!) - at least next time you'll be more careful.
PS: I'm glad I talked you into writing this blog! :)
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